How to Feel Good in Your Skin at Any Age
I want to tell you something that you might need to hear today:
You deserve to feel good in your skin—right now, exactly as you are.
Not when you've lost those 10 pounds. Not when you've "fixed" your neck wrinkles or your forehead lines. Not when you've finally found the perfect skincare routine.
Right now. This very moment.
It sounds simple, doesn't it? Almost too obvious to mention. Of course we all deserve to feel comfortable and at home in our bodies, regardless of age or appearance.
But if it's so obvious, why do so many brilliant, accomplished, generous women struggle to believe it?
Here's what I've observed in my 5+ years of working with (mostly midlife) women:
We've been conditioned to believe that feeling good about ourselves is something we must earn. That confidence should be reserved for those who have worked hard enough, invested enough, or been blessed with the "right" genetic code.
We're taught that self-criticism is motivating (it's not), that dissatisfaction drives improvement (it rarely does), and that accepting ourselves means giving up (quite the opposite).
Most insidiously, we're sold the message that feeling good in our skin is a privilege reserved for the young—that with each passing year, we should expect and accept a diminishing relationship with our physical selves.
🍃 I reject these notions COMPLETELY and I invite you to join me! 🍃
Because feeling good in your skin isn't a luxury—it's your birthright.
It's not something you earn through adherence to beauty standards or anti-aging regimens. It's something you claim through the radical act of deciding it's yours.
Last year I was working with a client who came to me with very specific ideas about what needed to "improve" before she could feel good about her appearance. She had a detailed list of perceived flaws and a timeline for addressing each one.
But during one session, she had a breakthrough that moved us both. She suddenly realized that she had been putting off feeling really good about herself for decades. She said she always felt that there was "one more thing" she needed to improve or work on before she could really be free to feel content and happy. She just didn't feel worthy.
That moment of awareness changed everything for her. She didn't abandon her face yoga practice or stop caring about her appearance. But she did stop making her self-worth conditional on how she looked.
This shift is what I hope for every woman I work with.
Because when you decide that you deserve to feel good in your skin right now—not at some future point when you've "earned" it—everything changes.
You become more receptive to practices like face yoga because they come from a place of self-care rather than self-correction.
You make choices from a position of strength rather than insecurity.
And perhaps most importantly, you reclaim countless hours of life that might otherwise be lost to self-criticism and comparison.
This doesn't mean you stop evolving or caring for yourself. Quite the opposite. When you truly value something, you tend to it with greater care and attention. The difference is in the energy behind that care—nurturing versus fixing, appreciation versus criticism.
So today, I'm inviting you to try on this belief, even if just for a moment: You deserve to feel good in your skin right now. Not because you've earned it through adherence to beauty standards, but simply because you exist.
How might your day be different if you approached it from this place? How might your relationship with your reflection shift? What might become possible?